Monday, March 06, 2006

Lunch Today

Since I so rarely see Kyle (21 year old bipolar son) at home anymore, I make a point to see him at lunch from time to time. He works at a restaurant about 2 blocks away from my office, so I walk over every 2 weeks or so. It makes me feel good to see him and shake his hand (I'd hug him if he'd let me). It's such a success story for him. He doesn't see it that way, he EXPECTS to have a job, and expects it to come as easily as it does for the rest of our family. Of course, nothing about Kyle getting and holding a job comes easily. But he looks so confident when I see him there, and it's obvious he's proud for me to see him there.

It's just one of those things, those successes that bring tears to the eyes of a parent. Success is relative to the person, and I'm every bit as proud of Kyle as I would be of my oldest landing his dream job at Rolling Stone or FHM, or my youngest meeting his goal of graduating from tech school.


Joel said...

You never know, Jon. This might be a step to other things. Good steps.

jane said...

I think the single most important thing to a son is his father's approval. You are such a loving dad, I really admire that.

Maggs said...

that is so sweet. i wish my parents had that kind of support for me then and now, and i'll be 30 in july

gen said...

it's not only important to a son, but to a daughter as well..

this weekend i stopped by my father's house to help him install his wireless router. i intentionally brought in my letter of acceptance for the new position i have recently taken. it was the first time that i've seen my father's face fill with pride because of me..and it did wonders for me on the inside. :)

Anonymous said...

I'm learning the short term goals need to be relative to the person who achieves them. I don't want to be a rock star any more, I'll be happy to just learn to really play my favorite songs and pull together a band that no one ever listens to.

Because learning to play has always seemed an unattainable dream for me due to a short attention span and depression. But I'm finding that our successes, no matter how small, tend to build upon one another and snowball

I remember a video interview where Billy Corgan (of smashing pumpkins fame) said he grew up in a family that raised him for failure, and just the idea of stepping onto a stage, any stage, and actually playing in front of people seemed like an unattainable pipe dream. Well look how things turned out ^_^