Tuesday, January 17, 2006

Kyle Update

Our 21 year old bipolar son, Kyle, has been gone now since Thursday night - Friday morning. This isn't unusual, when things get too stressful for him, he disappears. We assume he goes on a bender, and usually comes back after 2 or 3 days. But he's not usually gone this long. We're a little concerned.

His girlfriend has been calling several times a day, she is very worried. She got some very mean text messages that said they were from Kyle yesterday, saying he wanted to break up, and being very mean. Karen told the girlfriend that Kyle would never do that, and he wouldn't. He's as compassionate as they come, and would NEVER knowingly hurt anyone's feelings. But she's scared, and hurt, and we don't blame her.

We've gotten some clues from various people so we know he's still alive (that really is a concern of ours), and he may be staying with a few different people. But he's not working, has no money, and is a sloppy drunk, so nobody will tolerate him for too long.

We get angry having him around the house, as he creates messes and is not respectful of our house or property, yet we miss him and worry when he's gone. That's the nature of a parent, I guess.

(Cross posted to Bipolar Support and Living With A Purple Dog)

4 comments:

The Queen said...

I hope all is well with Kyle. I too would be worried, because we all know how irrational the bipolar mind can be. This is exactly the type of thing I worry about with my son. He is only 9 but is bipolar, and is already out of control.

I will light a candle for Kyle...

Jon said...

Thanks,Queen.

Jacqui said...

I too hope Kyle is ok & returns home soon. I don't have any children but I did similar actions to my mom (staying out late, not calling or just calling & TELLING her that I was staying at so&so's house for the night rather than asking) when I was a teenager (which I regret now, knowing how worried & hurt she was). Certainly the circumstances were different but it's obvious how much you love your son.

Jon said...

Jacqui - thanks for your comment. I wasn't a perfect child either, FAR from it. However I respected my parents enough not to do stuff like this. But Kyle's bipolar is MUCH worse than mine ever was, so I don't dwell on that. I know he faces challenges every day that we can't comprehend.